JOPLIN, Mo. —
Toddlers are funny little creatures.
If you tell them to stop plunging their hands into the peanut butter jar, they are likely to listen, and then run those greased-up hands through their hair.
If you say, “No!” they might look at their hands as if they are just realizing that they are coated in peanut butter, and begin to wipe them on the carpet to ameliorate the situation.
If you scream “Stop!” they may just burst into tears before running to you and grab hold of your clean shirt by way of apology.
I know none of this firsthand, of course.
When you tell a little one “no,” that’s all well and good.
What’s even more important, though, is to tell them what you DO want them to do.
Instead of giving a simple “No!” it’s much more helpful to say “Hold out your hand,” “Don’t touch anything” or “Stand still while I get a towel.”
Until they are old enough to figure out the best way to handle a peanut-buttered hand, it’s your job to tell them. And that goes for just about every situation they get into that is against your wishes.
For example, instead of saying “Stop!” when a toddler is dancing on the coffee table, it’s more helpful to say, “Get down, please.” Or instead of giving a stern “No!” and then walking away when a little one wants to dig in the potted plants, it might work better to follow up with an alternative Ñ something you DO want them to do.
Such as, “Come play with this tightly closed peanut butter jar.”
But that one’s a tricky alternative. Because toddlers are also highly dexterous creatures.
Sarah Coyne lives in Joplin. She writes about life and motherhood at her personal blog (http://thisheavenlylife.blogspot.com).
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